Introduction
Having desire for lust is what a lot of people mistake for love, but thank God for the grace of God bestowed on me to be able to enlighten you on this article about what love and lust are. People, don’t be confused with this similar word that twists so many young girls and boys into believing and thinking that it’s a natural thing that occurs whereby committing a lot of sexual gain and loss, which at the end becomes a betrayal or a regret.
Firstly, I will talk about the word ‘Lust.’ Having lust for anyone comes with the physical satisfaction of aiming at the dying virtues of whatever a man or woman wants to get, being satisfied sexually, and wanting to acquire that desire, or you may call it ‘feelings’ about that person because of the way they look.
A lady was robbed of her emotions some time ago because she couldn’t dictate whether her man was in love with her or was lusting after her; she kept mute for several years and wasn’t able to understand the difference! Not until when she was due for marriage and the man in question wasn’t saying anything concrete about their relationship. It was a long road to draw because he eventually gave her everything she needed but could not give her the love that could lead them together forever. She spent seven years dating this guy who almost satisfied all her needs, but one thing was missing, which is very important to observe as a lady when you are in any relationship: “Love.”
This lady has been waiting for this guy to propose to her, believing and thinking that maybe someday he will, but on the other hand, the guy in question was scared to break up with her because he was afraid of hurting her and needed more time to do that, which made the situation get worse by the day. On the 8th of Dec 2023, after a dinner night party with her man, she was so happy and confident that the guy was going to propose to her that night. She wore her best dinner gown that looks so lavish and classic. In fact, she was so happy that everything she had been dreaming of and waiting for had finally arrived. They served in a beautiful restaurant, and the both of them were so excited together!! She was desperately waiting for the guy to do the needful, not until the guy surprised her with a breakfast instead of a proposal ring. Gosh!! This was indeed sad, but the guy opened up to her that he's not in love with her, but he likes her and finds her fun to be with and was scared to hurt and tell her the truth, not until now. After how many years of their friendship, he didn’t just want to end it like that! “Please, Ann, bear with me. I do like you, but I don’t see spending the rest of my life with you. You are beautiful and endowed, but it was just a fling, or rather an infatuation, but not love, and I believe and know what I want. That’s why I couldn’t propose to you all this while. Please don’t be upset with me. I was waiting for the right time to do this. I believe you will find a better man that will love you for who you are, okay?” Those were his words to Ann after a long period of relationship with her, but what can she do? “Nothing,” because the deal has already been done. She wept and wept, but there was nothing to do, so she left. And you know what happened to her? She couldn’t bear the shame, time wasted, emotional distress, and lots more, so she had to end it all out of depression and heartbreak. Ann loses everything within a twinkle of an eye because she never understood what was lust and love and didn’t pay attention to observe and ask questions about what she wanted. “Regrets became the atom of selfishness.
A man can lust after so many things just to have a woman; as a lady, you must check yourself and balance your equations in every relationship you are going into or in so you won’t regret it like Ann in my story.
A man can lust after the physical attributes of a lady and can be attracted to what he sees, which is the butt, boobs, face, shape, etc. He goes the extra mile to acquire that thing that costs him sleepless moments or nights thinking about, but here is the thing: whatever a man sees and goes for varies in price, and it is now left to decide whether he ‘gets’ it or not, and if he gets it, there’s an option of keeping it or letting it go; it all depends on how valuable you place yourself as a lady.
You don’t quickly give yourself out cheaply when you don’t want to do something that might be funny later, except you have to realize what the man wants, and then you can willingly give him your body without any complaints or compensation. It should be a mutual feeling between you two so as to know if it's going to be nurtured or driven away.
CRITICAL SIGNS THAT EXTRACT ONE'S SELFISH LUST
1: In a balanced mind, our body reacts according to how we feel, like in one of my books, “What Triggers the Mind.” It talks about the feeling the brain gives to our subconscious mind, which generates into our body, in which we respond to it without taking proper actions! In this case, an imbalanced mind can trigger one’s body to do so much that it can lead you to satisfy your needs with sexual activity with a lady you are lusting after just because you want to satisfy your urges by all necessary means, and if it is not controlled, you will see yourself committing that behavior over and over again, whereby to end it will be a problem.
2: Unreal Emotional Connection: Having difficulties in stating your emotions for what you want, so many men don’t know what they want and can’t be specific; they value all but want none. They can’t face reality because they don’t know their emotional needs, which makes them uncomfortable to stick to one lady but rather lust after so many but love any. Their emotions are fake, and they only desire sexual attractiveness from every woman they see and expose them to sexual violence and abuse and make a lot of women have a bid for their own sexual identity, which can cause harm and abuse, leading them into sexual violence.
3: Lack of conduct: Every man or woman who has respect and dignity shouldn’t just be lusting after women or men. Lacking conduct is equivalent to the mislead of morals because you don’t feel a thing if you are hurting anyone or not; the only thing you feel you can do is rigging those things that give you pleasure and lack morals of being a man with so much charisma. Sleeping with so many women or men doesn’t dictate how cute, beautiful, elegant, and financially stable you are but perhaps shows how much misconduct you have because it risks your personal life and safety and being lustful for so many women or men, which can lead to disrespect, abuse, sexual shame, and financial ruin. health challenges and loss of reputation as a man because this attitude has damaged a whole lot of good more than bad as a result of lack of conduct in sexual activity.
SIGNS THAT OVERRULED LUST
1: Self-Care
2: Self-Esteem
3: Religious Beliefs
4: Moral Principles
5: Self-Satisfaction
6: Loving yourself
7: Proper Identity
8: Contentment
9: Understanding Communication
10: Lack of time
Summary
Relationships must be mutual respect that is given out naturally without any obligations. You must give and take responsibility for each other by knowing and respecting your values. You must not have an aim when going into any relationship. Every woman is respected based on the attributes you have, not just the physical characteristics but also moral and psychological characteristics, religious values, and extra-oriented personality. All this signifies that you are a true virtuous woman, and with all this special power that you possess, no man will have limited value for you; in fact, he will be scared to let go of you. Why the same thing is applicable to men: Not every woman comes to stay, but what you can give out must never drive her to go, especially if you have a disciplinary system that entails a good man with much charisma. That alone will boost every woman that you are not easily attracted to or used by. It will give her the confidence to stick and respect you forever. Remember, not only men that used and dumbed women, but women also do, for reasons best known to them, so be wise on how you treat people. A relationship is not a battlefield, but if we can remove lust and replace love by loving ourselves genuinely without being lustful just for fun, it will help build so many broken friendships.
